What is love? Love is one of those things you just can’t describe in words, but you know it when you see it. That still doesn’t make the question any easier to anwser. Love makes us do a lot of things, some good, some bad, a lot of them stupid and not thought out, or so it seems.
The Bible has a little something to say about love:
“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Now how does that definition of love given to us by Paul influence our love, or how should it?
What if you love someone and they don’t seem to love you back? How do you handle something like that? You want to be told one thing. Yet you are being told another thing by the other person, and that hurts. A lot.
From the casual observer or concerned friend vantage point you can view it one of two ways:
1) Like a Vulcan: Cold, callous, and with out emotion, and simply tell them to get over it. Doesn’t really help.
2) Like a Romulan: Full of emotion empathizing with them through their pain.
If you are that counselling friend, you need both. You need love. Though it may sound cliché, it is time to go back to 1 Corinthians 13:4-7.
1) Love is patient and love is kind; it is not jealous or proud. Check your heart. If you or the person you are counseling have selfish motives rooted in pride then something needs to change in them first before anything else. However, if the person is exemplifying patience and is waiting then be patient and supportive with them.
2) Love does not rejoice in wrongdoing, it rejoices in truth. Love is not malicious, and it does not seek to do wrong. If bitterness lingers between them something must be said. Malicious rumors and slanderous talk do not show signs of caring and loving affection. Love rejoices in truth and honesty. But most of all love rejoices in the truth of Jesus Christ and the ultimate love He showed to us by living a righteous life in our place and giving it up in our sted. He bore God’s wrath for us, the wrath we deserve. He didn’t deserve it, yet He took for us.
3) “Greater love has no one than this,”John 15:13 says, “that someone lay down his life for his friends” . That, ladies and gentlemen, is true love and only one person has shown it to the fullest extent and that is Christ. If you are hurting because of love lost, remember the boundless joy and love found in Christ Jesus. If you are counseling someone going through a rough time in his life, point him constantly back to this amazing truth of grace, and love him as a friend. Lay down your life to serve him and be there for him.
Love bears all things and love endures. It is strong and unbreakable if it is true. There is nothing more powerful than love. Love can overcome any obstacle. But, you must first find strength in the source of all love: God. Seek Him and know what true love is so you may show it and give it to others in return.